I was lucky enough to meet Samantha on Instagram, and was quickly introduced to her warm personality and huge heart. Samantha is a wonderful mom and stepmom who has used her experiences to offer guidance and support to other stepparents out there by way of her Facebook group. I myself have joined, and love the positive and helpful environment that Samantha has created. Please enjoy her interview, and if you’d like more information on her Facebook group, please leave a comment with your email :)
Q: Tell us a little bit about your family.
A: We are your Country Bumpkin kind of family. My husband and I have been married for four years, we have two beautiful children. My Step-Daughter Brogan Marshall is 17 and my son Ty Taylor is 14. My husband and I met in a little coastal town named Austwell, Texas where there is a population of 100. At the time we met, we both were married. He was my parents neighbor, so we all became good friends from the weekends that we would spend down at the bay. Overall I have known my Step-Daughter since she was 6, and my son was 3. We currently live on a small farm in south Texas, and our farm animals are part of our family.
Q: What perceptions did you have going into your situation? What did you think it meant to be a stepmom?
A: When I knew after the first date that I could not be with my husband, I had prayed for God to find me a man with children, that had a huge heart, that would love Ty the way that he needed and would love me for me. My prayers were answered on December 31, 2008. I have a step-dad that has been in my life for 25 years, he never treated me any differently than my mom. To me, a parent was not always by blood but by how you treat the child, loving them, showing them loyalty, and loving their parent. I knew that Brogan was a strong, independent young lady, who desperately need a mothers love. So, needless to say that I knew that I would treat her as my own.
A:Over time, I have realized the huge difference between raising boys and girls. I had to learn to parent each child differently and the course of everything had to be different. Brogan was more sensitive, hung onto your every word, and was too smart for her own good, so I had to make sure that what I said had to be thought out before talking to her. The older that she got, her mom was less and less in her life. I have seen the hurt that can come from abandonment and I just wanted to help fill the whole in her heart with lots of hugs and kisses.