Here are the kiddos on the first day of school and the second to last day of school – their mom had them on the last day ;) They both are a little taller, but other than that, I don’t think they’ve changed much at all :)
So I’m not sure if this is true for most blended families, but for us, the custody schedule changes during the summer. During the school year, we get the kids consistent days during the week (Tuesdays and Thursdays) and every other weekend. In the summer, it is a week on/week off schedule. This is actually the first year that we will be doing this, and I’m interested to see how it goes.
In previous years, we would print out free June, July, and August calendars from here. Then we would mark off our two uninterrupted weeks of vacation that we had previously chosen and the kid’s mom’s two weeks that she had chosen as well. Then we would split the rest of the summer equally. We would then pass this on to the kid’s mom, and she would see if there were any changes she would like to make, and we would eventually agree on a schedule.
This new week on/week off makes things easier in terms of figuring out a schedule, but it will be difficult going entire weeks without seeing the kiddos. Luca misses them sooooo much when they are gone. However, it is nice to be able to plan longer trips throughout the summer since we will have them for whole weeks at a time. We also were able to sign them up for week-long camps – a soccer camp for Kyleigh and a wilderness survival camp for Caleb. It seems there are more pros than cons to this new summer schedule, but we will see.
It is SO important, especially in a family where kiddos go back and forth from dad’s house to mom’s house, that the kids always know where they are going to be. This is why, years ago, I started buying a large calendar that I put above our desk. I get them here. I circle all of the days that Caleb and Kyleigh will be here with us. I also write down all of their activites, appointments, and any events that we are participating in. I color-code these things – every family member gets a different color. The kids check the calendar every day. It really gives them a sense of calm.
I’d love to hear how other families like ours handle their summer schedule. Is it the same as the school-year schedule? Do you have any tips to help make the transition from house to house easier?