With Easter approaching, I thought I would share with you how our blended family shares holidays with my stepchildren’s mom and her family. We have been using the same method since the beginning, and it has worked out pretty well for us. I understand that this doesn’t work for everyone, and I would love to hear how your blended family shares holidays!
The holidays that our blended family shares are: New Year’s Eve, New Year’s Day, Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and Christmas. Starting with New Year’s Eve and Day – we used to split the days in half, but that ended up seeming kind of pointless. Now, one of us takes New Year’s Eve, the other takes New Year’s Day. We alternate every other year this way. It works out nicely. Less driving back and forth, and we take turns getting to celebrate ringing in the New Year with the kids, and a nice family dinner on New Year’s Day.
For Easter, we split the day. We also take turns having the kids the first half of the day. This year is a unique situation though, as we have the kids the entire Easter day. Last year, their mom wanted to take the kids out of town to spend the holiday with family, so we agreed to having them the whole day this year as an exchange. The kids are very close to family on both sides, so we always try to work things out with their mom when there is an opportunity for the kids to see family.
Thanksgiving is another 50/50 shared holiday. The past few years we have had the kids the first half of the day, with their mom taking them the second half and keeping that weekend. We worked this out since Caleb has started hunting, and likes to go hunting with the men in his mom’s family that weekend. We will then get them the weekend after Christmas so that we can go visit my family out of town. As I said before, we all try to work out what is best for the kids being able to see everyone’s families.
Both Christmas Eve and Christmas are split down the middle as well. Every year we alternate who has them Christmas Eve evening into Christmas morning, for obvious reasons. The only downfall here is the amount of driving involved. It is a lot of back and forth, but it’s really the only way to be able to spend both holidays with the kids. And since we have family traditions on both of those holidays, it is really important to us.
We are able to share these holidays like this, because Charley’s family (who we spend holidays with) live close by. Most of my family lives hours away, and I will admit, it has been hard not being able to spend holidays with them. But I have never been willing to split our family up for holidays, so we just make it work. We usually try to visit them the weekend after the holiday. We do get to spend Christmas Eve with my family that lives close by, and that is one of our favorite traditions!
I would love to hear how other blended families share holidays! Any other stepmoms/stepdads out there miss time with their families because of the holiday schedule? How do you handle that?