I am so excited for this first post of The Stepmom Series! Being a Stepmom is one of the most difficult, yet rewarding jobs on the planet, and I think that there is a real benefit in being able to talk to other Stepmoms who can relate. And that’s how this series was born :) I will be interviewing a different Stepmom each time, and this week, I’d like to introduce you to Kylie Mecham!
Q: Tell us a little bit about your family.
A: We are a family of 6! This mama has 5 boys who take extremely good care of her! I never thought in a million years I would be a step mom, let alone a mom of ALL boys! I wouldn’t trade it! I’ve gotten over my fears of creepy crawlies thanks to those boys that bring them in my house all the time! We love to throw footballs around & play outside in the dirt. We are a hunting family! We get to have Kameron 2 weekends a month! My boys are all growing up so fast!
Q: What perceptions did you have going into your situation? What did you think it meant to be a stepmom?
A: I started dating my husband my senior year. We both went into it knowing we were dating other people as well. A couple of months before I graduated he found out the other girl he was dating was pregnant. There was no intention to stay with that girl, even though I pushed that he help in any way, the feelings just weren’t there. We continued dating & I met Kameron at 6 weeks old. At the time the paternity issue was still there. My husband had not taken the test yet because she said it was someone else’s. From the moment I met that little blue eyed boy I knew his daddy was my husband! I have always been around Kam & I like it that way. The only thing I was scared about was overstepping my boundaries with his mom. I wanted to take care of him the way I would if he was my own. I was very willing to go above and beyond when it came time to taking care of him. I, of course, changed the dirty diapers, but I let my husband do a lot.
Q: How did that perception change over time (if it did)?
A: My perception didn’t change for about 5 years! Neither my husband or I got along well with Kams mom! It made exchanges really hard! We have finally come to a good place with everyone. We are really happy & we see Kam two weekends every month!
Q: What advice would you give to a woman who is about to become a stepmom?
A: I would give the advice of being open & understanding. No mom wants to feel like they are being replaced. I know after all these years that’s exactly how Kameron’s mom felt.
Q: What is the best part of being a stepmom?
A: The best part of being a step mom is being what I like to call a “bonus mom.” I am someone Kam can come to if he’s not getting along with his parents, and I have the patience to help in situations that he gets upset with his parents in!!